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Marriage licenses are for all types of marriages between one man and one woman not just Christians. They are for all types of religions and no religion at all. Any government throughout history that has tried to define, control, encourage or disallow marriage has done it for a social agenda. The control of society, preservation of the family unit so society doesn’t collapse into anarchy, benefits for the children from such a union and property/deed management are more of the motives than happiness or faith.
Divorces have come to the point that they are mostly an attempt at fair and equitable division of property and money. Infidelity, financial infidelity (theft), cruelty (emotional) barely count in the courts anymore. Physical cruelty to spouse or the children and illegal crimes committed still count.
We are all up in arms about same sex marriage being legal or not legal. Right now the laws of most lands are mixed when it comes to supporting the idea that Christian vows taken to love and cherish be fulfilled or that the lack of that, constitutes a breach of contract. So why the fight?
A marriage license is a legal paper defining the finances of this union…..period. Our Christian vows to God and each other are what count to Christians. DO NOT be confused into thinking that because we vowed to stay married that any one of us has the right to use and abuse someone because they are not going anywhere. The use and abuse means the first person has broken their vows and the marriage can be ended at any time by any Christians that truly meant their vows when they said them. At a certain point, if a person keeps ‘putting up’ with the choices of the other, they are enabling and spiritually leading them astray by letting them think that it is okay to treat anyone the way that they are treating their spouse.
We have to see that a Christian marriage has a much higher set of demands put on it to be a truly faithful marriage. These demands are to put God first and then each other. By doing this, we are putting ourselves in equal standing with our spouse because we put God first and that takes the best care of ourselves. Christ clearly defined what was expected out of all of us married or not. So why are we arguing about the legality of same sex marriage?
Legally marriage has become simply a game plan of finances and property. These laws apply to everyone regardless of their religion or lack of it. In a free society that celebrates God’s gift and plan of freedom why is this an issue? People don’t have to be Christian. We don’t want to force anyone and we don’t want anyone that is forced. It is not God’s way. Christ never would have had to do what he did if ‘forcing people’ was any type of option. Legally all marriage licenses have become a legal paper of combined financial benefits, rules and regulations. That’s all. If it were more than that, we would have to adopt the values and rules of one religion’s definition or another. Since Buddhists don’t want Christians defining their marriages and vice versus why are we trying to control same. sex marriages? All they want is the same financial benefits and protection that everyone else gets?
In a free society based on the true God, Yahweh, our Father, His Son Jesus Christ, we choose to never even try to control other people’s thoughts or practices unless they are hurting someone else. If someone wants a legal financial union that is not about Christian marriage…so be it. Think.. What if two sisters or brothers or cousins or friends lived together in a house built by one of their parents? They were chaste, asexual. Whatever we want to say, but their relationship was not about sex. They lived together for years. One was a teacher and one was a librarian or whatever. Get the picture? When one dies at 70 years old and the other one that has been disabled for the past ten years cannot receive the other one’s social security benefits because there was no marriage, then the one left loses the house, his or her home. their forever home. They were counting on this income to keep things afloat. Now the remaining one has to leave…how sad. If a legal civil union had been in place this wouldn’t have had to happen.
This is not about sex, sexual activity or about religious choice, it’s about being fair. Other peoples’ sex lives are none of our business. If they want to combine their finances and do it legally with a civil union …good. We don’t want to know what goes on behind closed doors..NOR can we assume or accuse anybody of anything. It is not our concern.
We have to face the fact that the laws of the land do not support the standards Christ set before us in marriage…that’s our deal, our vows, our relationship with Christ and Our Father. That is totally our deal. Just because we comply with the law and get marriage license doesn’t mean the law complies with God…we do…if we choose. Since the legal license does not reflect or represent God, in a free society, shouldn’t it be available to everyone? By no means does that say it’s okay for same sex marriages, but civil unions? Legally that’s what they all are. Who are we to decide if it is two elderly sisters or brothers that suffer from the lack of a legal civil union or if a gay couple does?
We have to be clear here. God said. “NO” to homosexuality. Christ said, “NO” to homosexuality, but they said an equally big ‘NO” to judging others. We all make our own mistakes. One big HUGE mistake that I don’t want to make is calling Christ a liar and saying homosexuality is okay. It is not.
We as Christians cannot choose to make the same mistake, on purpose, every day, day in and day out and expect to be part of the Body of Christ. We have to try to be more Christ like every day. Letting people combine their finances legally seems only fair. It is NOT marriage. It is NOT Christian vows of true marriage between two faithful people and God, NOT even close. It is simply a paper legally combining finances of two people for whatever reason.
Christian marriage, our vows and our faith is up to us…the Christians. We can do it. Christ told us we can. It takes two to make it work. It takes three to make it wonderful. The Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. But it only takes one to destroy. That’s our deal as Christians. If there were no marriage licenses or anything legal at all, a Christian marriage is still the same. Christ would expect no less of us.
” Don’t you read the scriptures?” he replied. “ In them is written that at the beginning God created man and woman, and that a man should leave his father and mother and be forever united to his wife. The two shall become one- no longer two but one! And no man may divorce what God has joined together.” said Jesus Christ ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ + ++++++ Two Christians… true Christians, will choose to run it like this because of love of God the Father, Jesus Christ, and faith, ( a gift). All the while remembering that ‘God is love’ and ‘love is to be our greatest aim’ because it is our ‘greatest gift’. We are His.
It is sad to say that many people aren’t true Christians and even though they marry in a church, they really don’t mean it. So many marriages fall apart for so many reasons. Even when married to a deeply loving Christian, faithless people find themselves in a marriage that still can crash and usually does. It doesn’t make God wrong or Christ wrong or marriage wrong….it makes us wrong. Try harder…we are told.
As far the quote ” Christian ” churches that have decided that God and/or Christ were wrong or too stupid to ‘get it’ and allow gay marriage, you guys are in so much trouble with God and Christ it is unimaginable. This Christian loves God the Father and Christ way too much to call either of them incompetent or liars. This Christian loves His children, God’s children way too much to lie to them and lead them astray.
NO, homosexuality is not okay with God. NO, we don’t get everything that we want here, we were told that. Yes, we do have ‘crosses to bear’, things that we go without. To each our own. I won’t lie. For any of us for any reason to choose to do the same wrong thing over and over again is a choice to separate from God. But it is our choice…God’s plan of freedom.
1 Corinthians 6; 9-10
Don’t you know those that are doing such things have no share in the Kingdom of God. Don’t fool yourselves. Those who live immoral lives, who are idol worshipers, adulterers or homosexuals will have no share in the Kingdom. Neither will thieves or greedy people, drunkards, slanderers or robbers. There was a time when some of you were just like that, but now your sins are washed away and you are set apart for God and He has accepted you because of what the Lord Jesus Christ has done for you. I can do anything I want to if Christ has not said ,’No’, but some of these things aren’t good for me. Even if I am allowed to do them, I’ll refuse to if I think they might get such a grip on me that I can’t easily stop when I want.
2 Peter 2; 1-3
But there were false prophets too, in those days, just as there will be false teachers among you. They will cleverly tell their lies about God, turning against their Master who bought them; but theirs will be a swift and terrible end. Many will follow their teachings that there is nothing wrong with sexual sin. And because of them, Christ will be scoffed at. These teachers in their greed will tell you anything to get a hold of your money. But God condemned them long ago and their destruction is on the way.